Social media or the power of numbers
by Roger
Does this sound familiar?
Christmas dinner.
A time where friends and family gather ’round a Christmas tree and stuff themselves with lots of food. For some of them it has been a year since last time they’ve seen each other so there’s a lot of talking going on.
At one time or another the question pops up: “What are you doing right now?”. I explain (again) where I work and what I do (basically sell theater tickets and try not to screw up) and if they’re smart, they shut up and don’t ask any further. But there’s always one smart ass uncle around the table, he’s the one that always has some controversial opinion about something political just for the hell of it.
So I tell about social media and get a lot of confusing faces, it’s like teaching algebra to toddlers… it just doesn’t work.
Everything I throw at them, they don’t understand it. They give me answers we all have heard a million times over and true or not… you can’t argue because there’s some truth in them.
Yes, you’re never sure if the person you’re talking to is exactly who he says he is.
Yes, a relationship in real life has a better chance of being a profound and meaningful relationship.
Yes, bodylanguage and tone of voice are very important in conversations.
Yes, yes, yes,…
Just before I decide to give up I throw the argument of numbers at them and they shut up.
There’s not really anything to counter that right? If Social Media Guru X can reach about 50k people with just one tweet. How can you deny that? You can’t. Social media is a numbers game. You don’t have to befriend everyone at Facebook or add Tweeters and hope they follow you back. It means that social media people have the tools, the possibilities and the knowledge to handle more connections than anyone in real life. Is the relationship meaningful? I don’t know, but does it has to be? Does every connection have to be your friend? Social media people are in the ‘we share’ business. They don’t care if it’s someone they hardly know that asks something. They’re just glad they could help. And isn’t that meaningfull enough?
Now light a fire, pick up a bag of marshmellows and sing kumbaya! :)Tom is a marketing & communications manager at Kursaal Oostende in Ostend (Belgium). He writes about marketing, management and social media on Who’s Reading Anyway? and about customer relations on Who’s Listening Anyway?.
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You can’t teach an old, young, middle-aged… dog a new trick unless they are willing to learn. This is so true and the point about helping each other is right on!
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@Scott Williams, Yup… and by willing to learn you probably also mean that they also have to be interested. A lot of conversations (about social media) get stuck into meaningless discussions because there’s a lack of sincere interest in understanding what it’s all about.
I really like the fact you pulled the learning-part into this.
tnx,
Tom
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RT @JesseNewhart: Social media or the power of numbers: http://bit.ly/Gf1H
Yes, social media do work for some people. I am convinced of that. Sometimes I’m just a bit afraid though, that the Twitter community is still (and for now) some sort of in-crowd. Luckily, other social media like Facebook, Blogger, WordPress,… do offer the possibility to integrate Tweets into blogs and other pages, which in turns helps you to reach more and different people…
@Peter Monbailleu, I definitely think Twitter is still in-crowd. If you’re not willing to learn any advantage Twitter has to offer, than you don’t get it. And Twitter, imo, is an excellent example how the numbers work. If you have 20 followers and ask sth, you’ll get a different story when you have 40k followers and do the same. The trick is
1. convince people that the numbers work
2. educate them how they can get the numbers… and you dan do that by giving rather than taking.
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This I love — “It means that social media people have the tools, the possibilities and the knowledge to handle more connections than anyone in real life.” As for whether they are meaningful, I think that any relationship is meaningful if it changes my life in some way, however small. The relationships I’ve developed on Twitter change my life by the minute.
thanks for the post.
Lisa
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@Lisa Hickey, thank you for the kind feedback!
I agree that every relationship… or for that matter, everything you do in life has meaning, but I just didn’t want to step on the ‘karma’ or ‘zen’-things in life too much :)
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I was like those family members you’re describing a mere few months ago. The worst part is that I own a website development company, and had little to no knowledge about social media, which I now believe is a vital componant of customer service in my industry. It is a bit hard to grasp at first. If you try and explain it and people don’t quit get it, just give them a bit of time and exposure, and before you know it they will be singing the praises of social media right along side of you.
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@Scott Mahler-Datex Media, It shows that there’s still a long way to go. Even though we like to think we are plenty… we’re still a very small faction of people who try to use it in a good way and try to promote that way. But are we doing it right and are we explaining it like we should? Time will tell, but that makes it all the more interesting and blogs like these fun to read.
Tnx for the comment!
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Hey, I’d sing Kumabaya with you. Good points on Social media – we do not personally know each other but from experience I can attest that most (if not all) are always willing to help each other. Aloha!
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@A Maui Blog, thanks for the comment!
Maybe the willingness to help each other comes from the fact that we don’t know each other? Maybe a bit controversial point of view, but isn’t the feeling of ‘competition’ why we do or don’t help someone? And that feeling is in large part something that still remains in the real world…
Not sure… better think about it some more…
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